Jennifer Mitchell has been a foster parent to almost 200 children over the last three decades, but she's finally thinking of quitting.
"If I was getting the services my kids needed then I probably wouldn't have to give up," the mother from Milford said. Mitchell estimates only half of the children she has fostered in the last few years were provided the services they needed by the Department of Children and Families. "I don't know how much more I can put up with."
Mitchell is not alone.
An analysis of reasons foster parents give for dropping out found 20 percent quit because they felt DCF workers didn't respect them, that they didn't get adequate support from the agency, or that their children didn't get the services they needed.
Tracey Diglio-Nylen, a foster mother of twin girls: 'I didn't have anyone to turn to for question to be answered'
"These negative interactions poison foster parents' perception of the agency," said Jake Siegel, a policy fellow at Connecticut Voices for Children and author of the analysis.
Twenty years of court monitoring later, DCF is still heavily relying on congregate group homes because there are not enough foster parents for the 4,700 children in state custody on any given day.
In the last six months of 2010, DCF lost more than 450 foster homes, according to the federal court monitor's most recent report.
Ken Mysogland, who is in charge of where children are placed for DCF, said the department is working to retain foster parents. He said the department has appointed a point person whose primary responsibility is to handle foster parent complaints and ensure their issues are addressed. He also said there has been an overhaul in staff training and requiring they return all phone calls within 48-hours.
"It starts with us... If we lose one parent because they don't have what they need then that is one too many," he said during an interview. "We do have problems with retention" of foster parents.
Both Mysogland and child advocates say the results of the annual survey of foster parents leaving the system are troubling.
The survey, conducted by the Connecticut Association of Foster and Adoptive Parents under contract to DCF, found 27 percent of the foster parents interviewed said the agency did not provide support in crisis situations. Twenty percent said DCF did not meet with them regularly, and 25 percent said the agency did not help them access resources for their foster children.
Tracey Diglio-Nylen, a foster parent from Derby of twin girls, is one of them. She said her questions about the process went unanswered by DCF too often.
"I am their mother, I want to know everything about them," she said. "You are kind of left in the shadows not knowing what's going on. I didn't have anyone to turn to for questions to be answered" when deciding to move forward with adopting the twins.
Siegel said DCF has routinely failed to address the problems of foster parents.
"Despite negative foster parent feedback, DCF has not yet taken sufficient action to improve the interactions between its staff and foster parents," he wrote in the report released today.
DCF's Mysogland said the agency is in the process of completing a strategic plan for the foster care system that will be finished by July 1.
"I don't know when the last time is we did that," the 22-year DCF employee said.
State legislators also are targeting the foster care system with a "Foster Parents Bill of Rights." The proposed bill would, among other things, require DCF to provide parents with notification of meetings involving their children, a timely response to requests, and access to the support services for necessary care. However, the bill does not have any ramifications if DCF fails to provide any of these rights and does not permit the foster parent to take the state to court.
Sen. Paul Doyle, sponsorer of the bill, said the state first needs to set a precedent of what foster parents deserve.
"At least set their rights so they know what they deserve," he said.
Diglio-Nylen said it took her months after the twins were placed to receive their medical records and other pertinent information from DCF.
"Six months into it I was still looking for that packet of information," she said. The legislature is also considering another bill that would require foster parents be provided with more information that is currently considered confidential.
Jean Fiorito, executive director of the Connecticut Association of Adoptive and Foster Care Parents, said the number one complaint she hears is that DCF doesn't return phone calls.
"What drives foster parents away is people don't return phone calls. If they don't return phone calls how are their children going to get the services they need?" she asked.
Mitchell shares that frustration.
"I have just figured out how to get what I need from the system on my own. You really have to if you want the kids to get what they need," she said. But she said that expertise has taken years to master, it's the new foster parents she worries about. "They just won't get what they need. And they wonder why kids bounce from home to home."
But Diglio-Nylen said even though she has often been frustrated with DCF, that doesn't outweigh the benefits.
"I have been able to get over that. Someone has to be these children's advocate," she said, but added she just wishes she didn't have to spend so much time and money weaving her way through the system. "It gets expensive. We had to hire a lawyer. Not every parent is able to do that."
I'm sure cutting 2 billion dollars from the state workers will certainly help this situation (please note the sarcasm here). Although I agree that the State Budget needs to be overhauled, putting all the onus and blame on state workers seems like scape-goating.
I am not sure that people are really thinking that they will be affected by the state workers either giving concessions, or lay-offs. Who do you think will be helping foster parents when there are fewer Social Workers, and they are working shorter hours with more cases?
Blaming all of Connecticut's financial woes on the state workers
Read MoreJust one question:
If this is how DCF treats foster parents, whom the agency really needs, imagine how it treats *birth* parents for whom workers sometmies have only contempt from day one.
It's no wonder Connecticut takes away children at a rate above the national average and far above the rate in systems widely recognized as, relatively speaking, models for keeping children safe.
Richard Wexler
Executive Director
National Coalition for Child Protection Reform
www.nccpr.org
In articles like these, the Mirror needs to disclose its relationship with Voices for Children.
this is about lack of support for foster parents, not the budget. Go somewhere else to complain.
what is the relationship between Voices for Children and CT Mirror?
Shelley Geballe, a member and co-president of our Board of Directors, was a founder of Connecticut Voices for Children and is currently Distinguished Senior Fellow. When a member of our Board is directly involved in a story--as the author of a report, for example, or as a source quoted in the story--that fact is disclosed. Such was not the case with this story.
A list of our Board members and their other affiliations is posted on our website and may be viewed here.
Michael Regan
Editor
when agreeing to do my interview with the Ct Mirror, I did not see it as a venue to complain about DCF or being a foster parent, rather an opportunity to bring awareness and attention to the Foster Parent Bill of Rights, which is currently headed to the Senate floor. The bill is an attempt to give foster parents the ability to feel as though they are being treated with respect and dignity while raising "their children". It is, in my opinion, a constructive and appropriate manner in which to ENCOURAGE more families to renew their license and hopefully
Read MoreThe Village for Families & Children, established in 1809 as an orphanage, has evolved into one of the major service providers for foster care in the State of Connecticut. Given our history and extensive experience, I read with considerable interest the recently published article: [“Study 20 percent of former foster parents cite complaints about DCF”] May 11, 2011 by Jacqueline Rabe.
The Village has been instrumental in thousands of successful foster care and adoptive placements with families willing to open their homes and hearts to children in need. Just as no two families are the same, the needs of
Read Moreo This is very sad we asking for more rights for foster family then for innocence family who has lost their child unfairly. Ken Mysogland is the person that never returns any of my phone calls about his staff poor behavior and not allowing the Waterbury criminal court to find out about my 6 weeks old son skull fractures allowing a man to never get charge for this crime. I was at the hearing on 2/3/11 for the foster care bill of rights, While there I heard over and over why we should not support this bill, but no one
Read MoreVillage for Families & Children, how much money did you make by selling our children?, and how much money do you get for trying to pull a family out of poverty for that is the main reason a family losses their children here in CT.? NOT DRUGS those family seem to alway get a second chance to hurt their children again.
Kimberly,
You can look at all of the Villages financial information by viewing their 990.
Your piss and vinegar is severely misplaced. The Village has been and will continue to be a solution for the challenges our state faces in terms of the psychiatric health of children and families in the communities they serve. And they do it more effectively and cheaper than the state does.
Don't blame the healers for the failure of parents and the communities that feel a government check solves a families problems. Agencies like the Village don't make the polices that create
Read MoreFrom The Huffington Post,
Koplewicz makes a plea to ‘Stop the Stigma’ which is preventing children from being diagnosed mentally ill. Pretty catchy slogan isn’t it? “Stop the Stigma.” It ought to be, it’s a brilliant marketing campaign, brought to you by Big Pharma, via the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), a group that masquerades as a “patient’s rights group for the mentally ill” but receives tens of millions in Pharma funding
Government Accountability Office has launched a federal investigation into the massive increase of drugging children in foster care. “The investigators